Friday, September 22, 2017

In Real Time

A friend expressed to me a wish to deal with the happenings of a relationship in real time as they occur. I've been thinking a lot about that.

Is it a matter of ego to hold on to a perspective to the point of devaluing all other possibilities? Two people can have very different perceptions and still both be correct. Why is it so important to be "right" at the expense of someone else?

I like to think I am reasonable and open-minded. I don't want to miss a thing. Thinking back over time though, I am guilty of turning a blind eye to things in the hope that they would take care of themselves. If I had insisted that Sharylin see a doctor about that mole on her abdomen, would she still be alive today? As extreme as that situation is, I think it's an indicator for me. Something so small gets overlooked and it turns out to be the catalyst for some drastic changes.

How do you recognize the importance of such things? While life tests your limits and people test your boundaries, is it possible to maintain a steady course while considering others?

Is it possible to do it in real time?